Hi blankmonkey, welcome to WebmasterWorld.com!

If FrontPage won't do it you can use an FTP/SCP client such as WinSCP:
[winscp.net...]

Also, are you sure your web server is running Apache (necessary for .htaccess to work) and not Microsoft IIS?

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Yeha, it is an apache server, and i need the .htaccess to exist, or i would just delete it.

I think you are right, when i tried to create a file .htaccess on my ssytem, it wouldn't let me, bet it is a file system problem.

So if i can't sync it, is there a way i can tell frontpage to ignore it, or the directory?

i would really like to use the sync feature, i have been using WSFTP for a long time, and like the idea of "push one button, get your website updated"

One solution to try would be to create a soft link to another file called htaccess (no dot) which you could then manage with FrontPage.
On Linux you would do this with:

ln -s .htaccess htaccess

Come to think of it I'm not sure this solves your problem but take it for what it's worth ;)

I am trying out the program u suggested, it may be just what i am looking for :) ty

There might be a couple of different problems here. First, Windows (and thus FrontPage) won't allow you to create a file that consists of only an extension, such as .htaccess. Second, .htaccess on an Apache server is a hidden file and highly protected. It is unlikely you can access it by any HTTP means at all. Even when you view your remote site's file system in the "Remote Site" window, .htaccess does not show up. So any synching or upload or download of .htaccess from within FP will be impossible. I access mine through cpanel. If ftp won't work, cpanel is likely your only option.